On Monday January 29th, the ladies of Lamania held a gala at the boutique. We gathered a group of fashion lovers for an evening of wine and discussion about finding confidence in our clothing. Some of the ladies agreed that they often will use their clothing as something to hide behind when they are not feeling overly confident. As fashion lovers, they also agreed that getting dressed should be fun, and not an experience that causes anxiety or discomfort. So it was up to the ladies at Lamania to show them how to mix up their looks so they can feel cozy and confident.
I started out with a simple question, what does your style say about you? Is it screaming confidence, success and happiness, or is it highlighting fear, confusion and discomfort? Everyone you come into contact with throughout your day will judge you within the first 10 seconds of seeing you, regardless of whether you speak or not. This is the main reason why style is so important in you everyday life. A perfect example, as told by Lamania stylist and young designer, Jessica Da Silva, is a woman trying to find success in her career, people you do business with, potential employers, and colleagues will often judge your work ethic based on how they physically see you. If you show up to work hiding behind oversized clothing, chances are people will find it hard to view you as a leader due to your insecure outwardly appearance.
In this situation, it is important to keep a few things in mind. For starters, be sure you are wearing clothing that is the appropriate size for your body. This goes for oversized clothing just as much as clothing that is too small. Just because you have curves doesn't necessarily mean we should automatically be reaching for a double XL. When you are hiding parts of your body that you believe to be flaws, you are also hiding parts of your body that are your greatest assets. Don't be afraid to emphasize the things you love about yourself. If you have great curvy hips and a nice butt, but you don't feel comfortable flaunting your mid section, why not mix some skinny jeans or a pencil skirt with that looser fitting top? Using your clothing to highlight your assets rather than something to hide behind will immediately bring out your inner confidence for everyone to see.
The first step in feeling confident, is looking confident. We can often attach emotions to our clothing that can create such a difference in our level of confidence. For example, if we say to ourselves "I try to stay away from this top because it makes my hips look huge" we are attaching negative emotions to a piece of clothing. Therefore, we probably won't be feeling all that great about ourselves the next time we put it on. It is important to take note of the pieces of clothing that we attach positive emotions to and focus on those pieces and how we can style them to boost our confidence to an all time high.
Sometimes all we need to do to add a little bit of the wow factor to our look is add a bit of colour, glitter, or shine in what we call a statement piece. Jessica was able to give us a glimpse of what a statement piece can do when she transformed her basic black and whites to a head turning look with a bright red cape from Lamania. With Valentines day just around the corner, it's important for us ladies to look and feel our best, whether we're looking to impress a special someone, or we're simply just looking to impress ourselves.
Thanks to all the lovely ladies who joined us at the boutique for this fabulous event.
Stay tuned our blog about the second part of our event where we discuss relationships and dating with professional dating coach Leslie Edwards.
- Meghan Wels